It’s a secret:
The deal with crushes and infatuations
Tina Herr
He or She is near. What happens?
Your heart starts to race. There are butterflies in your stomach and heat is rising to your cheeks. Your fingers are trembling and you have the sudden urge to go up and say hi, but you can’t. You are rendered speechless. There’s no hiding it; you have a bit of a crush on someone.
Crushes are a healthy part of growing up. Our feelings mature just as our bodies do. It is a somewhat similar to the kind of feelings that adults feel when they develop romantic love for each other—which is why crushes are also referred to as Puppy Love, as it is young and innocent.
Sometimes, feelings for other people can be a bit confusing. When they’re near, a part of you would like to run away and hide in embarrassment, and another part would love to come up to this person and think that they share the same feelings for you.
Crushes can range from a big celebrity to a friend. But there really is no difference—a crush is a crush and there’s no denying it.
It’s a wonderful feeling—having to imagine that they would feel the same for you before you go to sleep. It may be just a crush but it makes you smile and that’s a good thing.
But then, there’s the fear of rejection–what if your crush doesn’t like you, or doesn’t have the same feelings for you? It may make you sad and feel disappointed in yourself.
A few words of advice: crying over a crush that has rejected is okay—because it is something that made you feel upset and you have the right to let out all those negative feelings. But keep this in mind: you’ll always find a new crush in every stage of your life. It doesn’t end with just one.
Also, if you are on the other end of the crush—be nice to the person who likes you. Tell them that you feel special about it. But if you don’t harbor the same feelings about them, say it in a nice way—as being rejected is never a good feeling and you wouldn’t want that to happen to someone who actually makes you feel special.
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